i know people have made posts before talking about how bisexual women are not inherently available to men, but i want to make it even more clear, since those posts always have sentences like “a lot of bi women choose to only be with women for a multitude of reasons” in them, which is absolutely true and there’s nothing wrong with pointing that out, but get this: bi women who have a preference for men are still not inherently “available” to men. bi women who tend to date men more than women are still not available to men. bi women who like to hook up with guys are still not available to men. no woman is inherently available to men. we are in control our own boundaries. we are in control of our own bodies.
the word “available” means: “able to be used or obtained; at someone’s disposal” and it’s very telling why people have chosen this word in particular to describe bisexual women and how we are “connected” to men. if you still fail to see how dehumanizing and offensive it is to refer to ANY bisexual woman as available to men, no matter what their dating or sex life looks like, you are absolutely utter garbage
I seen a post that said “people are scared of healing because their entire identity has been centered around the trauma they’ve experienced. They have no idea who they are outside of trauma…..” And that hits so deep.
You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognise their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behaviour change.
